ensure only jobs that entered the RUN state can satisfy `--dependency=afterany|afternotok` #10131

Job	Run time
validate commits	13s
python linting	31s
Generate build matrix	8s
spelling	6s
bookworm - test-install	4m 19s
bookworm - 32 bit	4m 18s
noble - test-install	4m 18s
el9 - test-install	4m 18s
alpine - test-install	4m 19s
fedora40 - test-install	4m 18s
jammy - test-install	4m 17s
focal - py3.8	4m 17s
bookworm - gcc-12,content-s3,distcheck	4m 19s
fedora40 - clang-18	4m 19s
coverage	4m 19s
el8 - ascii	4m 20s
el8 - test-install	4m 17s
el8 - system,coverage	4m 19s
inception	4m 17s
macos build only	3m 10s
flux-accounting check	38s
flux-pam check	3m 52s
flux-pmix check	25s
flux-sched check	1s
Generate docker manifest	1s
	1h 13m 39s

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